I'm a lesbian. Please don't tell me men can do IT better.

My coming out story is pretty simple, and quite lame if I'm honest. My then best friends mum text my mum telling her I was seeing her daughters ex, who happens to be a girl. She did it as a kind of pay back for getting with her daughters first love. Ironically it helped me come out to my mum and she totally accepted it! Not that I thought any differently because my mum has always been very open minded!
This happened just shortly after my 16th birthday, I didn't come out as Lesbian straight away. I was still finding myself so I came out as Bi, as I still wasn't completely cancelling men out of the equation!
Over the last 4 years I have had relationships with men and women, more so with women. And in those 4 years I discovered my true sexuality and came out as Lesbian about a year and a half ago.
I have been with my girlfriend for just over a year and at this moment in time I can't see myself with anyone else.

Although I am completely happy with the way I am. It seems that there are a lot of people out there that would say otherwise or that would try and convince me that being with a man is a much better choice.
I especially find this when I tell straight girls that I am gay. The usual response I get is "men can do it better" - What gets to me is, why do heterosexual girls feel the need to try and convince me that being gay is not the way forward and for me to have sexual fulfilment I have to "do it" with a guy!?
I asked the question http://hubpages.com/question/60701/when-i-tell-a-straight-girl-that-i-am-gay--the-usual-response-is-men-can-do-a-better-job-why
Some of the responses I got made a lot of sense, and a few just confirmed how closed minded and really quite self indulgent some people can be!

For one, I don't "date" women because I think they can please me better in bed. I date women because I am much more attracted to a woman and her personality. It may be hard for some of you to understand that I could just never see a man in the same way as I see women, or my girlfriend to be more specific.

You could say I am gay because I have never had a real man in my life - my dad was an alcoholic and my brother and I didn't really gel as children, so yes this could very well be the reason or factor as to why I am gay, BUT it does not mean that I am gay because I haven't found "Mr Right" yet - I never will and in fact I just don't want to find "Mr Right". I am much more interested in finding "MRS Right!"

Going back to the sexual fulfilment. I often get asked why I would want to use toys and fake penises when I could have "the real thing" - again, I just don't see men in that way. I am not physically attracted to a man meaning a man just doesn't turn me on. Being with a woman is a lot more appealing to me and the whole act itself (to me) is so much more meaningful. And I'd say at least 75% of lesbian relationships hardly ever use sex toys! That is just a straight persons assumption that ALL lesbians use sex toys because they are secretly longing for a man! - NOT TRUE.

Although I prefer women over men, this is not something that I have chosen. I have not decided that I am going to live my life as a gay woman. Being gay is not usually a preference. I believe that you are born gay. But when you come out depends on when you realise that you are gay. For me I guess it was at an early stage in my life. Although I do know others that have come out at a much more younger age and looking back on myself now I can see that I was very much gay from a very young age, I just didn't realise/ fully understand what it all meant! And some people don't even realise until later in their life, they usually lead a life believing that they are straight and some even marry/have children!

My point is that although many of us did not consciously chose the path of being gay, many of us are happy with who we are. And as much as you try and persuade us lesbians that men can do a better job, maybe they do for you, but I'm afraid that men just don't do it for us. And nothing is going to change, unless you summons a witch that can magically turn all of us lesbians straight! But PLEASE DON'T, I like the way I am!